Open Thread

jackal’s route is one way to go. But you only need to be a successful furniture warrior if you decide to go to war over a particular piece of furniture. Another approach is to divide up spheres of influence, with each party retaining a more residual advise and consent jurisdiction in the other’s. Just know the areas where you want the primary say and negotiate a mutual respect of turf. Then you don’t have to master a bunch of sofa arcana just so you don’t lose a battle you don’t need to have. There are costs to being a control freak.

“but there are a lot of people (even my age) who are lifers. very weird.”

I’ve noticed the same thing. My wife’s family in Massapequa is like that. I think it goes to a mentality that they believe they bettered themselves when they moved from Booklyn to Long Island 50 years ago. They hold on to that belief, as a kind of assurance. I say assurance, because in the case of my wife’s family, their socio-economic situation has definitely declined, they live in an aging “split level”, yet they remain convinced that they are so much better, and better off, where they are.

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but there are a lot of people (even my age) who are lifers. very weird.

lol yep. they are the kinds of people with super expensive tricked out leased cars who live in their mom’s basement? ballers, indeed

*rob*

Totally strategic thinking, lech. Ditto- you would do well to heed the Lech. Of course, bear in mind a woman will still run rings around you unless you know what linen weave, toile, breathable, piping, cabriole and bun feet mean. Good luck. 🙂

makes sense benson

long island is a very strange place. you’d think rents would be by default much cheaper than nyc – but there are a lot of people (even my age) who are lifers. very weird.