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Exactly
if you are a native New Yorker (whether or not you are middle class or have loads of dough) you already know that it’s customary to give cash at the wedding reception and not a physical gift
I know in other countries AND other states it’s the opposite
so I am only speaking as a New Yorker
And yes weddings cost fortunes – ours cost a pretty penny
but I literally had the time of my life as did our guests – we were all about having a good time and making it personal and fun
we did it at Battery Gardens here in battery park city and couldn’t have had a better place or time
rob – I don’t drink beer but I didn’t see the 40s when I was looking for the shrimp.
I did see Pia! She stood there dumbfounded: “Who the hell are you & what are you doing here?!?” Her little jaw dropped & then she high-tailed it under the bed. She’s very pretty.
if those $ amounts are bugging your eyes…..think of how much the whole thing costs…wedding reception and all- dinner night before…..and all the money spent on hotels/travel and such by out-of-towners….
Add it up and is down payment on nice house.
Awwww, Rob, when Mark and I got married, we did NOT register anywhere and asked that “the only present you bring is your presence”.
I know, I know, more than a tiny bit corny, but we wanted everyone to come to New Awlins and have a ball, and not worry about it. Plus we’d already been living together for about 3 years (sin!), so what could we need from others that we didn’t already have?
And fwiw, a few good friends and family brought gifts they had selected themselves that reminded them of us, or that they thought we’d love. MUCH more nice than some crap off of a registry that means nothing. Might as well give cash if that’s the case. And I find that deploringly tacky.
Petebklyn
Wow – that’s tough b/c my uncles gave me each over $700 – but remember I invited their wives and my cousins(their kids) so all in all they took care of paying for the people they came with
BUT – b/c you have 13 nieces and nephews I would say $300 – $400 is a generous gift!
I agree the whole wedding thing is pretty stupid and really don’t get the whole thing. But can’t boycott. Is my nephew and all.
I don’t think cheese would work. WHole time growing up he and his twin brother would remove cheese from pizza cause didn’t like cheese. They still probably do.
Will probably do small registered gift and $$ but the amount has be in tizzy. Don’t want to over or under.
Besides wedding reception there is dinner night before and breakfast following day for out of towners (like me – as this is north fork LI).
My favorite wedding was friend neighbor — I was their witness—we walked up to borough hall the 3 of us only and then they treated me to breakfast at St Clare diner on Atlantic avenue.
Don’t people realize that 80% of people attending the wedding would rather be doing something else.
Exactly
if you are a native New Yorker (whether or not you are middle class or have loads of dough) you already know that it’s customary to give cash at the wedding reception and not a physical gift
I know in other countries AND other states it’s the opposite
so I am only speaking as a New Yorker
And yes weddings cost fortunes – ours cost a pretty penny
but I literally had the time of my life as did our guests – we were all about having a good time and making it personal and fun
we did it at Battery Gardens here in battery park city and couldn’t have had a better place or time
ouch. yeah very expensive. but you can get a divorce for 400 bux on 4th avenue!
*rob*
rob – I don’t drink beer but I didn’t see the 40s when I was looking for the shrimp.
I did see Pia! She stood there dumbfounded: “Who the hell are you & what are you doing here?!?” Her little jaw dropped & then she high-tailed it under the bed. She’s very pretty.
sounds like it was a nice wedding noki.
yeah i guess cash is tacky.. i dont know tho.. if you put the cash in a nice card it’s not as tacky.
*rob*
if those $ amounts are bugging your eyes…..think of how much the whole thing costs…wedding reception and all- dinner night before…..and all the money spent on hotels/travel and such by out-of-towners….
Add it up and is down payment on nice house.
who wants to get married? my eyes are bugging out right now over these dollar amounts being suggested 😎
*rob*
Awwww, Rob, when Mark and I got married, we did NOT register anywhere and asked that “the only present you bring is your presence”.
I know, I know, more than a tiny bit corny, but we wanted everyone to come to New Awlins and have a ball, and not worry about it. Plus we’d already been living together for about 3 years (sin!), so what could we need from others that we didn’t already have?
And fwiw, a few good friends and family brought gifts they had selected themselves that reminded them of us, or that they thought we’d love. MUCH more nice than some crap off of a registry that means nothing. Might as well give cash if that’s the case. And I find that deploringly tacky.
Petebklyn
Wow – that’s tough b/c my uncles gave me each over $700 – but remember I invited their wives and my cousins(their kids) so all in all they took care of paying for the people they came with
BUT – b/c you have 13 nieces and nephews I would say $300 – $400 is a generous gift!
I agree the whole wedding thing is pretty stupid and really don’t get the whole thing. But can’t boycott. Is my nephew and all.
I don’t think cheese would work. WHole time growing up he and his twin brother would remove cheese from pizza cause didn’t like cheese. They still probably do.
Will probably do small registered gift and $$ but the amount has be in tizzy. Don’t want to over or under.
Besides wedding reception there is dinner night before and breakfast following day for out of towners (like me – as this is north fork LI).
My favorite wedding was friend neighbor — I was their witness—we walked up to borough hall the 3 of us only and then they treated me to breakfast at St Clare diner on Atlantic avenue.
Don’t people realize that 80% of people attending the wedding would rather be doing something else.