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Biff, I would worry much more about the exploitation of the surrogate. These women are likely to be supervised carefully by the agents who connect them to the first-world parents-to-be. They need to deliver a healthy product in order to continue their business.
I agree with CGar; it’s really a bad idea to judge with 10% of the facts. Who knows, she might have health issues she doesn’t really want to expose to every Jack and Harry, so they have this cover story of “choice.”
CGar- we’re responding to the facts as Lech presented them. I don’t have a problem with having a nanny help with the kids but the combination of paying someone to have your child, simply because you don’t want the “hassle”, picking a gender, because you want to, and hiring a full time nanny to take care of the child makes me think there is a real disconnect which the child will suffer for in one way or another. A kid is not a toy.
I know next to nothing about their financial situation, but I would call situation and mindset of outsourcing child birth “Upper Class”
On a side note, I think that many Americans have pretty distorted views of how well off they are, and the term “middle class” has been stretched to the point where it is close to meaningless.
The national median household income is around $45K a year – same as the surrogate fee.
Less than 16% of households make more than $100K, and only 3% are over $200K.
I would be very concerned about how the surrogate mother takes care of herself during the pregnancy. Will she drink, eat raw fish, smoke, etc? Mrs C took great care of herself during both pregnancies (and look how perfect The Champs turned out? Ok, bad example)
Maybe the couple needs to put a 24/7 Big Brother type surrogate cam on the Central American woman.
*channeling Rob*
To take the contrary and unpopular view, I have friends who did something similar, not the entire fact pattern, not having a nanny raise their child, and, IMO, they have very good reasons for doing so.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge people, particularly without knowing them and all the facts, but maybe that’s just me. I do my best to be open-minded and non-judgmental.
I took classes at MIT years ago & there was a girl who posted a notice on a bulletin board listing qualifications she was looking for in a sperm donor – she said she didn’t have time for a significant relationship. I asked her how, if she didn’t have time in her life for a low-maintenance adult, would she have time for a kid. Her response was that she just wanted to contribute to the gene pool. She did have a baby & didn’tmiss a single class.
Biff, I would worry much more about the exploitation of the surrogate. These women are likely to be supervised carefully by the agents who connect them to the first-world parents-to-be. They need to deliver a healthy product in order to continue their business.
I agree with CGar; it’s really a bad idea to judge with 10% of the facts. Who knows, she might have health issues she doesn’t really want to expose to every Jack and Harry, so they have this cover story of “choice.”
rob….ALERT…thread above about raising chickens in Bushwick^^^^^^^^^^^
CGar- we’re responding to the facts as Lech presented them. I don’t have a problem with having a nanny help with the kids but the combination of paying someone to have your child, simply because you don’t want the “hassle”, picking a gender, because you want to, and hiring a full time nanny to take care of the child makes me think there is a real disconnect which the child will suffer for in one way or another. A kid is not a toy.
I know next to nothing about their financial situation, but I would call situation and mindset of outsourcing child birth “Upper Class”
On a side note, I think that many Americans have pretty distorted views of how well off they are, and the term “middle class” has been stretched to the point where it is close to meaningless.
The national median household income is around $45K a year – same as the surrogate fee.
Less than 16% of households make more than $100K, and only 3% are over $200K.
(all data is 2005 US census)
bring forth the superbowl. plus some juicy deals on TVs please.
I would be very concerned about how the surrogate mother takes care of herself during the pregnancy. Will she drink, eat raw fish, smoke, etc? Mrs C took great care of herself during both pregnancies (and look how perfect The Champs turned out? Ok, bad example)
Maybe the couple needs to put a 24/7 Big Brother type surrogate cam on the Central American woman.
*channeling Rob*
To take the contrary and unpopular view, I have friends who did something similar, not the entire fact pattern, not having a nanny raise their child, and, IMO, they have very good reasons for doing so.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge people, particularly without knowing them and all the facts, but maybe that’s just me. I do my best to be open-minded and non-judgmental.
I took classes at MIT years ago & there was a girl who posted a notice on a bulletin board listing qualifications she was looking for in a sperm donor – she said she didn’t have time for a significant relationship. I asked her how, if she didn’t have time in her life for a low-maintenance adult, would she have time for a kid. Her response was that she just wanted to contribute to the gene pool. She did have a baby & didn’tmiss a single class.