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“I agree with whoever said cutting down on drinking helps improve ones mood.”
I know it improves my mood. I sleep better, feel more rested. I’m less cranky, less forgetful. Find it easier to deal with frustrating situations. I feel more alert, less foggy.
And am more able to leap tall buildings in a single bound! ; )
Here is Dr. Benson’s advice. Before I provide this advice, let me state that I am assuming that you are not clinically depressed. If that is indeed the case, my advice to you would be to avoid a therapist like the plague. From my observation of folks who have been in a similiar funk, therapists feed into the problem, in that they make the person continue to focus on themselves, which is often the essence of the problem. Therapists often have a blind spot in this regard. See any Woody Allen movie to see this effect in action, and NYC therapists are the worst in this regard.
My advice to you would be to join an organization where you will have a larger purpose. I won’t tell you the type of organization, except to say it should be aligned with some interest of yours. I’m talking about a volunteer group. Could be a charity, a religious group, a civic group, etc. that is devoted to some larger cause. In my experience, joining such a group is therapeutic in a number of ways. You get to interact with folks from various walks of life and in doing so, it allows you to put your issues in perspective. Likewise, by focusing on a larger issue, you gain further perspective on your life and can better cope with your issues.
While I don’t think psychotropic drugs are generally a good idea, I’d endorse rob’s using some to get back on an emotional equilibrium. At the moment he’s in a hole & needs a ladder just to see the horizon & happier things to aim for.
Yes, listen to Dr. legion and not-so-doctor denton. I share all those concerns and agree that rob should pursue non-medical solutions first. And I am not only not a doctor, I don’t play one on the web.
I also know that rob is sometimes afraid to even seek quality medical help for his dog due to fear of costs, and I am concerned that any medicating he might do would be with a quickie prescription from a GP, not due to real diagnosis with a good psychiatrist. Psych meds really require good clinical evaluation and monitoring (including liver tests, as dibs points out). All of this might be too big a deterrent. But there is something in the relentless causticness that strikes me as potentially a brain chemistry issue and I wouldn’t rule it out.
Rob, it is clear that, whatever you think of the various real estate and neighborhood obsessions, you have a community here that cares about you. If you don’t have strong supports in your real life, you probably should hang on to this community, even if you start ignoring most of the threads.
true story: i once tried to find a therapist who took my insurance, well my insurance would pay only a small amount for a session for x number of visits and i had to pay the rest, but i thought i’d give it a try. she was located on the upper east side, she had good credentials, and a worldly last name. i schedule an appt and she asks me over the phone if im allergic to cats. i say no. the reason was because she worked out of her apartment.. okay fine. i get there it’s the stereotypical, “why dont you lay on the couch” okay. fine. seemed appropriate. the next think i realize is that there’s not one cat. but two
three
four
five
six
i think there were about 7 damn cats crawling around on and under the couch!
i wound up completely not being able to talk to her about anything, so i wound up leaving before session was up and never went back. i didnt even bother paying her. what a waste hahahah
so if any of you cat ladies want a therapist, i have a recommendation hahahah
“I agree with whoever said cutting down on drinking helps improve ones mood.”
I know it improves my mood. I sleep better, feel more rested. I’m less cranky, less forgetful. Find it easier to deal with frustrating situations. I feel more alert, less foggy.
And am more able to leap tall buildings in a single bound! ; )
Rob;
Here is Dr. Benson’s advice. Before I provide this advice, let me state that I am assuming that you are not clinically depressed. If that is indeed the case, my advice to you would be to avoid a therapist like the plague. From my observation of folks who have been in a similiar funk, therapists feed into the problem, in that they make the person continue to focus on themselves, which is often the essence of the problem. Therapists often have a blind spot in this regard. See any Woody Allen movie to see this effect in action, and NYC therapists are the worst in this regard.
My advice to you would be to join an organization where you will have a larger purpose. I won’t tell you the type of organization, except to say it should be aligned with some interest of yours. I’m talking about a volunteer group. Could be a charity, a religious group, a civic group, etc. that is devoted to some larger cause. In my experience, joining such a group is therapeutic in a number of ways. You get to interact with folks from various walks of life and in doing so, it allows you to put your issues in perspective. Likewise, by focusing on a larger issue, you gain further perspective on your life and can better cope with your issues.
Jinx, Cobble!
I agree with whoever said cutting down on drinking helps improve ones mood.
While I don’t think psychotropic drugs are generally a good idea, I’d endorse rob’s using some to get back on an emotional equilibrium. At the moment he’s in a hole & needs a ladder just to see the horizon & happier things to aim for.
I’m now picturing denton in Dr. Denton’s feet pajamas. This is entertaining! : P
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Yes, listen to Dr. legion and not-so-doctor denton. I share all those concerns and agree that rob should pursue non-medical solutions first. And I am not only not a doctor, I don’t play one on the web.
I also know that rob is sometimes afraid to even seek quality medical help for his dog due to fear of costs, and I am concerned that any medicating he might do would be with a quickie prescription from a GP, not due to real diagnosis with a good psychiatrist. Psych meds really require good clinical evaluation and monitoring (including liver tests, as dibs points out). All of this might be too big a deterrent. But there is something in the relentless causticness that strikes me as potentially a brain chemistry issue and I wouldn’t rule it out.
Rob, it is clear that, whatever you think of the various real estate and neighborhood obsessions, you have a community here that cares about you. If you don’t have strong supports in your real life, you probably should hang on to this community, even if you start ignoring most of the threads.
Greece has scored a second goal to take the lead. For frame of reference, this would be the equivalent of fully diagnosing AND curing *rob* by COB.
most therapists SUCK. that is a total given.
true story: i once tried to find a therapist who took my insurance, well my insurance would pay only a small amount for a session for x number of visits and i had to pay the rest, but i thought i’d give it a try. she was located on the upper east side, she had good credentials, and a worldly last name. i schedule an appt and she asks me over the phone if im allergic to cats. i say no. the reason was because she worked out of her apartment.. okay fine. i get there it’s the stereotypical, “why dont you lay on the couch” okay. fine. seemed appropriate. the next think i realize is that there’s not one cat. but two
three
four
five
six
i think there were about 7 damn cats crawling around on and under the couch!
i wound up completely not being able to talk to her about anything, so i wound up leaving before session was up and never went back. i didnt even bother paying her. what a waste hahahah
so if any of you cat ladies want a therapist, i have a recommendation hahahah
*rob*