If the person is a user, simply stop doing for her whatever it is that makes you feel used. Make yourself unavailable. I have a long list of excuses for the users in my life, I’ll give you a few!
If the person says something offensive going forward, I would just say something like…You know, it makes me uncomfortable when you say that would you please not do that. Or you can ignore it.
So you burst? What’s the worst thing that comes of that. She finds out you’re mad, and either apologizes or smacks the sh*t out of you! LOL! Kidding about that last part!
It’s hard to drop the ‘friendship’, as I have almost daily contact with her and we sometimes work together. She’s not a bad person over all. Just some things that she does/says irk the sh*t out of me.
I’m normally a very easy going person and could care less what others do/say, but since I deal with her, it’s affecting me.
Maybe, you all are right. I need to just turn a blind eye to this. I’m scared one day, she’s going to rub me the wrong way and I’m going to burst.
“So how do you tell a ‘friend’ to go ef themselves.”
If the person didn’t do those things would you still like to be friends? Or do you just want to blast them into outer space?
I know of a person that did this:
Make a list of all the reasons/bad behaviors you now despise/dislike/whatever this person for. Invite the person out for coffee. Then proceed to describe for this person, item by item, all the items on your list. Somewhere down the list, no telling how far, this person will just get up and leave, saying something along the lines of “I’ve heard enough” or muttering obscenities under their breath.
ET, you don’t. Because life is much too short, at the risk of sounding trite. You keep things in perspective. Let things go. And move on. I speak from experience that took many years to learn.
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“I’m scared one day, she’s going to rub me the wrong way and I’m going to burst.”
I like going for a shiatsu and being rubbed the right way until I burst.
If the person is a user, simply stop doing for her whatever it is that makes you feel used. Make yourself unavailable. I have a long list of excuses for the users in my life, I’ll give you a few!
If the person says something offensive going forward, I would just say something like…You know, it makes me uncomfortable when you say that would you please not do that. Or you can ignore it.
So you burst? What’s the worst thing that comes of that. She finds out you’re mad, and either apologizes or smacks the sh*t out of you! LOL! Kidding about that last part!
It’s hard to drop the ‘friendship’, as I have almost daily contact with her and we sometimes work together. She’s not a bad person over all. Just some things that she does/says irk the sh*t out of me.
I’m normally a very easy going person and could care less what others do/say, but since I deal with her, it’s affecting me.
Maybe, you all are right. I need to just turn a blind eye to this. I’m scared one day, she’s going to rub me the wrong way and I’m going to burst.
In all seriousness, I agree with CGar. Just don’t return calls, drop the friendship and leave it be.
“So how do you tell a ‘friend’ to go ef themselves.”
If the person didn’t do those things would you still like to be friends? Or do you just want to blast them into outer space?
I know of a person that did this:
Make a list of all the reasons/bad behaviors you now despise/dislike/whatever this person for. Invite the person out for coffee. Then proceed to describe for this person, item by item, all the items on your list. Somewhere down the list, no telling how far, this person will just get up and leave, saying something along the lines of “I’ve heard enough” or muttering obscenities under their breath.
ET, you don’t. Because life is much too short, at the risk of sounding trite. You keep things in perspective. Let things go. And move on. I speak from experience that took many years to learn.
Wait CGar. Before you go.
Go ef yourself!
Kidding btw 🙂