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Rob, that’s quite a story. Do you think your grandmother could handle it if you were to talk to her about this unexpected turn of events and ask her advice?
Whatever you eventually decide to do, right now you should take some time to think about it and talk it over with people you trust. I would advise against making any fast decision about contact. Take your time. It does sound like this intermediary will be respectful of your needs. Maybe contact her to say you are thinking it over? It also sounds like your half sister would benefit from the even just the psychological support of contact with you, but that shouldn’t necessarily influence your decision. You have to do what you think is best for you.
This is one of the main reason I wage war with you MOFO because Covert Class?Race warfare if uncheck can lead to some bad things. Jon you fit into the same mode as the Assheads and I wish I can see him on the street! I think his business gets slammed for this!
Shame, Shame, Shame:
Racist Cookies in
‘Honor’ of Barack Obama
MYFOXNY.COM – “Shocking,” “appalling,” and “racist”: These are just some of the words used to describe what’s for sale at a well-known bakery in Greenwich Village. While much of America celebrated Barack Obama’s inauguration, Fox 5’s Arnold Diaz found that this bakery marked the occasion with a controversial cookie that the owner calls a “drunken negro face.” Watch Arnold’s report, read his blog, and then comment on the story.
thanks for the advice guys.. im sure she had a rough life. i didnt have a terrible life because my grandparents adopted me. if i told my grandmother about this i bet she wouldnt want me to see her.
I have a half sister who is about 10 or so years older than me. I met her once when I was very young. A couple of years ago she contacted my mother in order to find me. I was suspicious only because of what she was saying – ‘it would be nice to have a little sister’ etc. What the hell took her so long to decide she wanted to know me? She had planned a trip to NYC and wouldn’t you know it the friend she was staying with happens to live just a few blocks away from me. I declined to meet her or allow my mother to give her my phone number. I also had fears that she wanted to have conversations about our father and possibly compare horror stories and the like. That’s a conversation I wasn’t ready for then and still not willing to have now. I can’t tell you not to see this girl, her motives don’t seem to be ill intentioned. If you decide to see or speak with her, just be clear about what YOU expect to get out of it and how it may impact your life.
I think you should, rob. Family is an iffy proposition, true, but on the upside, nothing beats a great family. Mine is great but there were times when I had to walk away form them. It was awful- and i will never do it again- but your half sister seems to want to meet you. A little sister can be ownderful (as can big brothers). give it a try- at best you’ll meet pepole who will add something to your life, at worst you can walk away if you’re uncomfortable. Take it at your own pace.
WOW, rob. It’s a difficult decision, I know. Sounds like there’s no harm in communicating more with Monica and getting a little more information on your half sister. It sounds like Monica will respect your decision. You should at least start by finding out where in the country she lives.
i have a very serious thing to think about today. i just got this on facebook and i have no idea what to do. a little background.. i have a half brother and half sister that my mom gave up for adoption a long time ago. i never met them. i havent heard or seen my mom since i was 17 or 18. anyway…
Today at 2:44am
You don’t know me, but i know your half sister Dina. I’m assuming you know that you have a half brother and sister. (Dina and Michael)
Today she told me about you and showed me a photo of you with something that your mother wrote to you on the back. She was wondering about you, but she didn’t know anything about you or where you lived, so i thought i’d do a facebook search for her.
My name is monica and i’m her neighbor. I’ve sort of been mentoring her and being a kind of big sister to her this past yr. She and I are very close and i help her with school work and the average teenage angst. She is 17 now and will be turning 18 in August. I don’t know if you ever met her, but to her recollection, she said she never met you. She knows about you, but no one in her family has given her any information about you.
I don’t know how you feel about having any contact with her, but in case you did I’d be happy to put you in contact with her. If you have any questions about her feel free to ask me since she has given me permission to do so. If you don’t want any contact with her or are not ready or something, i will just tell her i did not find you because i wouldn’t want her to feel rejected since she’s already had it kind of rough growing up. I hope you don’t find my message too intrusive, she was just curious about you and had tried to do a search for you online once some time ago.
Sincerely yours,
monica
has anyone ever dealt with something like this before? im totally at a loss. i dont really have any relations with my family except for my grandmother who gave up on my mom anyway. would this be a bad thing to persue?
Rob, that’s quite a story. Do you think your grandmother could handle it if you were to talk to her about this unexpected turn of events and ask her advice?
Whatever you eventually decide to do, right now you should take some time to think about it and talk it over with people you trust. I would advise against making any fast decision about contact. Take your time. It does sound like this intermediary will be respectful of your needs. Maybe contact her to say you are thinking it over? It also sounds like your half sister would benefit from the even just the psychological support of contact with you, but that shouldn’t necessarily influence your decision. You have to do what you think is best for you.
This is one of the main reason I wage war with you MOFO because Covert Class?Race warfare if uncheck can lead to some bad things. Jon you fit into the same mode as the Assheads and I wish I can see him on the street! I think his business gets slammed for this!
Shame, Shame, Shame:
Racist Cookies in
‘Honor’ of Barack Obama
http://www.myfoxny.com/dpp/news/090122_Racist_Cookies_in_Honor_of_Barack_Obama
MYFOXNY.COM – “Shocking,” “appalling,” and “racist”: These are just some of the words used to describe what’s for sale at a well-known bakery in Greenwich Village. While much of America celebrated Barack Obama’s inauguration, Fox 5’s Arnold Diaz found that this bakery marked the occasion with a controversial cookie that the owner calls a “drunken negro face.” Watch Arnold’s report, read his blog, and then comment on the story.
This is why The What exists…
The What
Someday this war is gonna end…
thanks for the advice guys.. im sure she had a rough life. i didnt have a terrible life because my grandparents adopted me. if i told my grandmother about this i bet she wouldnt want me to see her.
*r*
I have a half sister who is about 10 or so years older than me. I met her once when I was very young. A couple of years ago she contacted my mother in order to find me. I was suspicious only because of what she was saying – ‘it would be nice to have a little sister’ etc. What the hell took her so long to decide she wanted to know me? She had planned a trip to NYC and wouldn’t you know it the friend she was staying with happens to live just a few blocks away from me. I declined to meet her or allow my mother to give her my phone number. I also had fears that she wanted to have conversations about our father and possibly compare horror stories and the like. That’s a conversation I wasn’t ready for then and still not willing to have now. I can’t tell you not to see this girl, her motives don’t seem to be ill intentioned. If you decide to see or speak with her, just be clear about what YOU expect to get out of it and how it may impact your life.
I think you should, rob. Family is an iffy proposition, true, but on the upside, nothing beats a great family. Mine is great but there were times when I had to walk away form them. It was awful- and i will never do it again- but your half sister seems to want to meet you. A little sister can be ownderful (as can big brothers). give it a try- at best you’ll meet pepole who will add something to your life, at worst you can walk away if you’re uncomfortable. Take it at your own pace.
apparently they live in north jersey (jersey city area) which is where im from.
*r*
WOW, rob. It’s a difficult decision, I know. Sounds like there’s no harm in communicating more with Monica and getting a little more information on your half sister. It sounds like Monica will respect your decision. You should at least start by finding out where in the country she lives.
This is the stuff that movies are made of.
Pope’s a dope. But Andy was pope of pop.
i have a very serious thing to think about today. i just got this on facebook and i have no idea what to do. a little background.. i have a half brother and half sister that my mom gave up for adoption a long time ago. i never met them. i havent heard or seen my mom since i was 17 or 18. anyway…
Today at 2:44am
You don’t know me, but i know your half sister Dina. I’m assuming you know that you have a half brother and sister. (Dina and Michael)
Today she told me about you and showed me a photo of you with something that your mother wrote to you on the back. She was wondering about you, but she didn’t know anything about you or where you lived, so i thought i’d do a facebook search for her.
My name is monica and i’m her neighbor. I’ve sort of been mentoring her and being a kind of big sister to her this past yr. She and I are very close and i help her with school work and the average teenage angst. She is 17 now and will be turning 18 in August. I don’t know if you ever met her, but to her recollection, she said she never met you. She knows about you, but no one in her family has given her any information about you.
I don’t know how you feel about having any contact with her, but in case you did I’d be happy to put you in contact with her. If you have any questions about her feel free to ask me since she has given me permission to do so. If you don’t want any contact with her or are not ready or something, i will just tell her i did not find you because i wouldn’t want her to feel rejected since she’s already had it kind of rough growing up. I hope you don’t find my message too intrusive, she was just curious about you and had tried to do a search for you online once some time ago.
Sincerely yours,
monica
has anyone ever dealt with something like this before? im totally at a loss. i dont really have any relations with my family except for my grandmother who gave up on my mom anyway. would this be a bad thing to persue?
*r*