crazy (literally) neighbors
My neighbors are crazy and fight constantly and I really worry that the teenage son may kill the father or the mother or vice versa. Also, they make my life hell. What can I do? We are both owners in a co-op
My neighbors are crazy and fight constantly and I really worry that the teenage son may kill the father or the mother or vice versa. Also, they make my life hell.
What can I do? We are both owners in a co-op
Do coop boards do ANYTHING??
This is why people don’t want to invest in coops. They’re totally dysfunctional. The board members only care about issues that affect them directly. Anybody who has a problem with another owner that doesn’t affect the board members can go f*** themselves apparently. That is terrible.
Deliver a written letter to your coop board every single time you have a complaint about this. (Record the noise of the fights with a tape recorder). Tell the board you are not going to deal with this directly because you fear these people and they are violent. Tell the board to perform their responsibilities and stop this fighting or get rid of these people.
If the coop board doesn’t do anything then get a lawyer to write a letter and threaten to sue them.
To speak to your concerns, 5:39, my advice would be to call 911 and simply report the incident and tell them you fear for your own safety with these people. Tell them your safety will be threatened if these people become aware that you have made the report. It is likely that they have dealt with similar situations in the past and there are protocols in place. As for the call to the Office of the Department for the Prevention of Domestic Violence, reiterate the same to them, as well. Your safety is your top priority in all of this – it is very difficult to live next door to violence, but it is unwise to risk bodily harm under any but the most desperate circumstances. Risking your own safety should be your very last resort.
Thanks for the help.
There’s not a chance I can approach them directly. I would really fear for my life. I like to be as off the radar as possible where they’re concerned. But the screaming and punching (?) or throwing large electronics around the home are really too much. I wake up listening to this stuff and just feel sick that someone is about to get killed.
I’ve been hestitant to call the cops bcs I worry somehow it will get back to me. I’m happy to tell them my name when I can, but is it on any paperwork? That these people would see? I’m not willing to open myself up to that.
2:39 is right…unlikely that you can get them to change and danegrous to try. Call the cops.
2:40 I was so hoping you were going to accuse the Flea od being a drug front. Call the cops.
What about neighbors that openly sell crack? There’s a new flea market in Clinton Hill, not the one at the HS, no this one is right on Clifton place and Grand, where the drug dealers have decided to make an excuse for their obvious on the street dealings, now their “selling books” It’s unbelievable. Did the cops give them this idea themselves? The same characters that you’d see slip a palm to a customer now have set up shop to “sell books.” The crack heads have gotten so bold that they now pace back in forth waiting for them to show up if they’re not there. Things are really getting creepy. I wonder if it’s also signs of the economy.
All due respect to 2:00, who I think offers sound advice about invoking co-op rules and the provisions of your agreement, I would not in a confrontation with them mention suspected violence or in any way mention “craziness”. Domestic violence situations are incredibly volatile and unpredictable, and you have no idea whether something you say will be used privately by the abuser against the victims in the household. I speak from experience with this.
Were I you, I would contact the Office of the Department for the Prevention of Domestic Violence at (518) 457-5987.
I would also call the police whenever an incident occurs. If you hear an argument going on, call the cops. They will likely send a patrol car and investigate. The more times you do this and the more reports they have on file, the more likely they are to launch a larger investigation. Encourage your other neighbors to do so, as well. I would also speak to other members of the co-op and the co-op board about scheduling a meeting to address your quality of life concerns. Again, at no time ought you mention your suspicions about violence in the home to these people – abusive homes are rife with denial, obfuscation, secrecy and chaos. Any attempt by any untrained professional to intervene will likely be met with hostility.
Best of luck.
You have to do nothing, or be painfully direct with them, i.e., you have to confront them yourself. If they are bothering the rest of the coop, you can invoke whatever rules your proprietary lease has about noise, quality of life, etc… Also, tell them you’re going to call the cops if they keep bothering you, and tell them that everyone notices how crazy they are acting, that it’s not OK.
It’s not going to be an easy conversation. Are there other units? Does anyone else notice? If not, then it’s a harder conversation still.
call the police
likely they will visit and leave and nothing will change at all
Are you referring to me??? We are NOT crazy and we resent that comment. My son is just confused. Keep him out of it.
I’ll see you at home.