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August 16, 2007
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I have just begun living full time in Brooklyn Heights after managing a complete home restoration from a distance for 2 years. Are there any gay establishments in the neighborhood for the relationship-oriented man. I am 30 and feel very much like a stranger without a good sense of my surroundings. It would be nice to meet other men in the area who are interested in good conversation and I promise not to talk endlessly of exhausting battle to bring an hold house back.
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YOU GOT TO BE KIDDING THINGS LIKE THAT YOU SHOULD KEEP TO YOURSELF. SICK.
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 2:46 PM
My sense is that the gay bars which once were in Brooklyn Heights are no more. You are more likely to find casual conversation in friendly spots in Fort Greene/Clinton Hill or along Fifth Avenue in Park Slope. For concentrated gay specific spots, however, LES, Chelsea and Hell's Kitchen are probably still the spots for 30ish folks on the make.
Posted by: Putnamdenizen at August 16, 2007 2:46 PM
There used to be a gay bar in Brooklyn Heights called Friends...it was on Atlantic Avenue, but it has since closed. A funny place.
There is Excelsior in Park Slope and Moe's in Ft. Greene is pretty gay friendly. I wouldn't exactly say that any gay bar in New York orients itself towards the relationship type guy, although.
If that were the case, they'd all go out of business, because most of the coupled up men no longer go to gay bars. I think their business model thrives on keeping us single for as long as possible!
I'm in my early 30's, gay and live in Park Slope. I also wish there was a place to hang out because after living in Manhattan for the past 6 years, I'm really into hanging out in Brooklyn now, unless it's to meet up with friends...and most of mine are straight.
I'd love to hear about your home restoration.
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 3:02 PM
2:46, people talk about moving and renovating all the time on this site. I agree though, it can be kind of sick.
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 3:06 PM
I trust that the first person is trying to be funny. Welcome to Brooklyn. People love to stir things up on this website to get the liberals to lose it and make themselves sound silly. It actually works and can be pretty hilarious. People just can't resist even when they know that they are being baited.
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 3:07 PM
One thing you might do is loiter around men's rooms in buildings that have a lot of foot traffic, especially at night and during off hours. Also, when sitting in a toilet stall, look around for little messages that have been scribbled on the walls, like "Meet me here at 9:00pm on Thursday"...that sort of thing. Meeting people is a lot of work and it requires some persistence, but things have a way of working out. Welcome to the hood!
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 4:29 PM
4:29- Is that what you do? New York has room for everyone. Even you.
Posted by: guest at August 16, 2007 5:06 PM
Make friends with some lesbians in the Slope who can introduce you to their single gay male pals. There are PLENTY of eligible guys in Brownstone Brooklyn!
Posted by: NeoGrec at August 16, 2007 5:30 PM
Meant to add, try Gingers (5th Ave at around 6th St) and Catty Shack (4th Ave at Carroll) -- both are mixed and very laid back.
Posted by: NeoGrec at August 16, 2007 5:33 PM
This is a bunch of hogwash!! Where do I go to meet Black people? Where do I go to meet White people?? Where do I go to meet people who are afraid of clowns??
When you limit yourself like that you open yourself to discrimination. If you want someone for conversation almost anyone will do unless conversation is this a code name for something else?
It must be hard to go around living your life as a GAY person instead of just a person. Don't u feel marginalized?
just dont get it,
Maria
Posted by: guest at August 17, 2007 4:46 PM
you're right maria. we should also do away with republicans and democrats....we're all people right???!!!
and boys and girls! dont' discriminate! we're all transgender!!!
so you are saying that straight people who go out in new york to mostly straight places (lots in the hope of finding a mate) are marginalizing themselves? so basically you are saying that they should start hanging out in gay clubs so as not to limit their human interactions? ?
hmmm. if you don't get any of this, there isn't one ounce of hope for you.
Posted by: guest at August 17, 2007 6:20 PM
I have similar problems meeting single, attractive, preferably large breasted single women in Brooklyn and I'm a straight male!
All the chicks either have Russian boyfriends or part of the stroller set and milking their offspring on benches in front of Starbucks in Park Slope.
Posted by: guest at August 18, 2007 7:43 AM
Thank you all for your feedback. I am an optimist, so I will assume the bigoted comments and disgusting cruising advice was submitted in jest. I am looking for another gay man to date as opposed to a straight man, so to the people who feel I am marginalizing myself, I agree. If a member of a minority is looking for another member of that minority, I must be specific in my request. To the man from Park Slope who left a kind message and any other kind people who take my request as a new neighbor seriously, my email address for this purpose is bheightsejp@yahoo.com. I bought a house in Brooklyn because everyone told me how open-minded and diverse the population was in general. I am from New England, so perhaps my small town nature has given me too much hope. Even so, the people in Brooklyn Heights I have met so far have been quite wonderful and interesting but staight and married. So, email me if you are interested but to those who are using my post as some sort of aggression exercise, please refrain from writing me.
Posted by: bheightsejp at August 19, 2007 7:10 PM
Seriously, is there a clown bar in Brooklyn?
Posted by: slick at August 20, 2007 4:14 AM
Look how fast your story change from conversation to looking for a man to date. You should have said that in the first place. You come here being all pretensious...soliciting dates like you're desperate
Maria
Posted by: guest at August 20, 2007 12:15 PM
he said he was looking for someone "relationship oriented" who are interested in conversation, maria.
stop being so ignorant.
you're gross.
Posted by: guest at August 20, 2007 12:43 PM
Maria, or Harvey which is probably your real name, I know some wonderful therapists who could help you. Using me as your pinata for frustration and low self-esteem is an honor for me, truly, but I only have so much time. If money is an issue, there are many low-cost options for someone like you. Rest assured Maria (Harvey) and the unfortunate person looking for clown bars, from now on I will stick to blogging about house restoration. The tip about the lesbians in Park Slope was a great one. I no longer have need to ask for "leisure" advice on Brownstoner.
Posted by: bheightsejp at August 20, 2007 3:25 PM
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