Forum Archive: Posts by: nona525

I know this isn’t a lovelorn forum, but a friend who is actually a RE agent mentioned that home-buying is one of life’s biggest stressors. Makes sense to me, considering the magnitude of the decision and its consequences. Well, here’s the nut, as in kernel. I am prepared to invest some time in exploring whether renovating a house we saw and liked makes sense. (Said house needs major work, including beam repair.)I have in mind a series of steps that I believe would yield adequate information to make a yay or nay decision. But of course I understand that when undertaking something like this, there are always unknowns and potential nasty surprises along the way — still. It is this I think that so fully freaks my beloved. He seems to think it will be a nightmare, a never-ending nightmare. An expensive never-ending nightmare. Honestly when I try to talk to him about it, he denies the feelings/reaction I am attempting to describe. He says he just wants me and our “kids” to be happy. Honestly, I think I can get enough information to decide whether doing this is a good idea or not. I know that is a lot of information that falls into a number of categories. I also think that if I conclude the renovation is a good idea, that I can handle dealing with the professionals needed–architect, contractors, etc. But — my beloved’s terror has spread to me. What if it does go terribly wrong? It will be my fault because he was the reluctant one.

Any family counseling advice welcome!